I had the pleasure of watching this movie today and just trying to absorb all the information within. The movie is basically about the trials and tribulations black men have when dealing with black women. The movie was scripted but there were also real life interviews with everyday people to find out why there is such a huge disconnect with black men and black women. I was watching this with my mom and needless to say some things that some people said hit a nerve with me and my mom. My major issue with the movie was the huge one sidedness and one mindness of it all. It is not just about black men dealing with black women, it’s about men dealing with women. The filmmaker only touched upon that point close to the end of the film. There are a lot of reasons why black women may be angry with black men and vice versa. We have a huge history of being taken away from each other and being beat down just for the color of our skin. Then we have stereotypes of the black man in jail, dealing drugs and basically not being a well-functioning part of society and then we have stereotypes of the screaming black woman who walks around with an attitude at all times and doesn’t need anyone. Angry baby mama ho feels cheated cause her black man decided that someone outside her race was better than her. That is the problem. These are stereotypes but let’s wake up. I do not know anybody in relationship that has not had issue with their significant other. This movie had black men telling how young women are taught to not trust black men because their mothers raised them that way and how they just want peace when they get home. Not to yelled at or screamed at. But Black women just don’t that. Every woman does that. When a woman is angry , hell hath no fury. Everyone should know this by now. Now there were some people who were very insightful in the sense of why these things happen, some admitted to just looking at the outside instead of finding out the person within. Some admitted they had issues with how they were raised. Some ladies admitted that some black women were angry because they were insecure within themselves. The movie was about a black man who married a black woman who did nothing but complain and give him grief. Even when the man cooked her and their daughter breakfast, she accused him of sleeping around. Again another stereotype that men will only do something nice for you because they have done something wrong.
Truth is everyone is insecure and everyone has issues. What should happen is both men and women need to have someone teach them to respect each other. Respect seems to be lost in this day and age. We seemed to have lost all manners when it comes to dealing with people. Can’t say excuse me and just utter loss of values. We always let past hurts dictate how our future relationships should be but we are all not the same.
Some people are genuine , respectful, loyal, and overall nice. They just want to have someone to share their lives with and even with ups and downs, still have a healthy respect for each other. In the end he found someone who appreciated him for who he was and isn’t that really what we all want no matter what our race is.