Violation of women because of the power of “no”

I am sure most of you have read about the deadly shooting in Isla Vista and how men and women lost their lives due to someone’s mental instability.  The culture’s name is Elliot Rodger. 


Elliot wrote a manifesto of his entire life from birth till his tragic end. He discussed how up and down his childhood was, the bullying,  his lack of decent interactions with anyone, men and women alike. He goes on to discuss how he became more sheltered and retreated to the online world to socialize. He began to hate men and women in relationships and being happy and how he never experienced that. He expressed how he was attracted to a certain type of women (white women and blonde) and how they never paid attention to him.
One of the saddest part of this he was actually getting help for his mental instability yet people still lost their lives.
The victims have been identified:
Veronika Elizabeth Weiss
Christopher Ross Michaels-Martinez
Weihan Wong
George Chen
Cheng Yuan Hong
Katherine Brennan Cooper
All these people were students at USC with the males being his roomates. They can no longer experience life because someone could not handle theirs.
Unfortunately,  this whole mentality of” the world oweing me something” is not new especially with women.

Countless women have to live in fear of their lives because some men do not respect the power of no.
There is new tumblr page named when women refuse. This page lists the horror stories plus how men feel about rape. Our own government has tried to say there is a difference between rape and justifiable rape. I’m sorry but rape is rape. As soon as you say no and fight back and it continues, it’s rape.
On Twitter,  there a hashtag #yestoallwomen that people can tell more of how they feel in real time. Some men are waking up to the fact that their own mothers, daughters,  sisters, aunts, nieces have at some point been the victim of unwanted harassment or worse.
However, there are still plenty of men out there who cannot respect the power of no from women. Women have to lie about being someone hoping that it will back them off and even then,  there is no guarantee that it will be taken seriously.  I myself have been catcalled and then when I do not respond, immediately I was a bitch. Funny how fast my attractiveness fell huh?
But why should women live in fear? How hard is it actually to respect when a women says no? Why should anyone lose their lives because you feel they should be accepting of your advances? The world doesn’t owe you anything and for guys that feel “see that’s what you women get for friendzoning men”, your mentality is completely fucked up and hope your mom gets to hear how you actually feel about women and give you a good swift kick in your ass.

Scripted reality for your pleasure

Morning good people. Random thought of the day always seems to produce a blog so here goes. As most of you are aware, reality tv is now a staple in out viewing landscape. We the viewers get to see people act foolish or not and have their lives open for the world to see.


Then comes the hammer of the people’ s judgement. This is the proverbial catch-22 where the “stars”(note the quotation marks) then start talking back to the world via Twitter, instagram, Facebook and yadda yadda about how can you judge us. You are seeing what the producers want you to see. Granted, that may be true but only to a certain extent. The behavior that is shown is not something the all of a sudden happened overnight and you all knew the job was dangerous when you took it.

Lets be serious. There is something human nature that love to see people make an ass of themselves.

We can also argue the point of how some of these show a small population of how certain ethnicities act and it is making some ethnicities look bad. Ethnicities do that anyway, tv has just begun to highlight the bad points kinda like how the history we learned school kinda glossed over some bad points but hey, the truth always comes out.

So here is where pot meets kettle. These supposed stars then wanna call out other reality tv stars behavior like their shit doesn’t stink. I guess somehow you forgot what you showed to the world or what your behavior was. Selective memory is a bitch huh?

Then we have the mightier than thou talking about how these shows are affecting the youth of today. So I am going to assume that we will no longer taking responsibility for raising our kids and letting them right from wrong and teaching them about why some people may behave the way they do. It would be great if people would own up to their “fuckery” .

So please don’t be mad when you put our business on front street and got the whole world wagging their tongues about you but you have to stay relevant, right?

The world according the Kanye



Morning world and all that Kanye west seems to allow to live in it. So I recently read on my illustrious Facebook feed that Mr. West wants his wife to be the next Coco Chanel.

Pause. Stop.  Looking with my eternal bitchface. Now I am all for one having dreams and aspirations.  Makes sense. Make your self happy by finding your calling but why Kanye are you trying so desperately to shove Kim down everyone’s throat. (Dirty mind has kicked in and stop) :mrgreen:

I myself is all for Kim doing what Kim wants to do. What I am suspicious about is why Kanye continues to be her mouth piece (dirty mind stop that).
I have not really seen any article where Kim is actually stating this is her dream.

We have seen her dressed in the best  designer fashion, been a muse for a fashion house and been called fashionable, but let her speak for herself.

It seems the fragile flower that is Kim needs everyone to be speaking for her. She cannot be that vapid where she cannot form sentences, right?

This is one media relationship I have seen where the guy has to change the world’s view of their mate.  There is so much other fuckery going on aka BBWLA, LHHATL and NYC and no one is going around defending their mates behavior.

Sorry to say it but hoes are already housewives so this whole campaign Kanye is doing is a mute point at best.

Just make and produce music Kanye. Prety please with a yeezus cracker on top?


1-09-2014———- The price of Fame… Yes that old Chestnut

Evening good people. I hope all is well in your world. This particular topic has been buzzing in my head for days and though it has been talked about before, I am going to throw my hat into the ring.


being famous


Today in this 30 Sec marketplace we call fame, it seems the expectations of those to stay “Relevant” is a hard road.
They have fans to appease or not, things to make them stay note worthy and somehow live a life.

Being a user of social media, I have seen some of the worst behavior from the keyboard warriors and screen protectors. These people have opinions on how these people should live their lives or how they are living their lies till, begging for love from celebrities and then breaking down every aspect of the entertainer so somehow this makes them feel better.

I wish could understand when people actually forgot the saying ” Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one” Please tell me how these people who most if not all times have worked hard for their status in their craft ( Singing, dancing, acting, sports, artistry) yet when they reach a certain status which BTW these keyboard warriors and screen protectors put there now feel the need to tear these people down.

We all have flaws. None of us are perfect so why it is we demand perfection from these people? Past performance does not dictate future returns.

I have read some seriously horrible things about people in entertainment from the illuminati is blessing some to people saying people relationships are fake to worrying about people’s hair to what people name their children to the fact they may have a lazy eye.

Now while I have verbally made an opinion of certain things I would not take time to post them. I know what it like to be gawked at and made fun of and I am by no means famous so I can only fathom what it must be like to under a microscope by the general public.

Why are we so happy to tear people down that we put up on pedestals? These people want you to respect their craft and hopefully enjoy but why when they have a bad day, all of a sudden they are a major disappointment.

And can someone please explain the illuminati to me without sounding like a raving lunatic? I have heard of this invisible hand or organization of pushing certain people to the forefront so we focus purely on them. If that is a case they are surely doing a piss poor job because for every article about Beyonce, Kimye, Lebron, Dwayne wade and or who ever they wish to deem flavor of the moment, there are plenty of articles of underground artists and players that people are making sure you find out about.

We all know how powerful word of mouth is but stop trying to purposely derail someone’s time. Everyone has their moment to shine I mean really shine. Why can’t we be happy that they worked hard and they did what they had to do.

Now I will admit their are plenty of random people in entertainment and we all know how they got their but you really can’t knock the hustle that keeps them there.

Anyhoo, I said my two cents .


Back From the Midwest…. Met new additions to my Fam

Well Good people. I just got back from a trip to Omaha, Nebraska. ( Yes Midwest). This is where my hunny lives and where I will be moving to in late August / Early September.  This trip was a bit special though. I was very happy to spend a great week with my Hun but I got to meet his parents….. Yes I was nervous but I had built a virtual relationship with his mom prior so I was not too nervous but still nervous. 

Cherry Blossoms

Our trip as a family was to the zoo. Now looking back, it was a perfect setup. Walking, talking and seeing animals. I got to spend an equal amount of time talking to Mom, Dad and Hunny. I only got to talk to Rio ( Jake’s oldest nephew later but I expect that when I meet children)

I loved the bonding time with mom. Lots of talking and laughing. With Dad, my nerves on edge. Jake’s dad was in the navy and almost every military person I meet has that air about them. One thing I will say he was open and friendly and not as crass as Jake made him out to be.  I think he might I have been a bit nervous to meet me too. Though people can describe you to the best of their abilities, people need to feel you out for themselves.

I had a really great time with his family and of course being the photographer I am, I documented almost everything.


Birds Sancutary

I look forward to moving out there and continuing this new Chapter in my life.

The New World ORDER…. or at least in my mind..

Today I woke and of course turned on the television. I was channeling surfing when I landed on MTV. Now before anyone says anything, I will say it MTV NO LONGER PLAYS MUSIC ( it’s first mistake) but it was a show I actually enjoy called True Life. Today’s episode was ” I cannot please my parents”. Today’s they showed the lives of 2 different young men who lived in different parts of California. One lived in Beverly Hills with his Persian parents  and the other who lives with his Hispanic mother. I am telling you the ethnic background because this is how it was edited to the viewing public.  The young men each had dreams and goals they wished to accomplish. One wanted to publish his book about being Persian and the other wanted to become a DJ.

Both these young men lived with their parents which wasn’t the issue. The issue is that both sets of parents did not allow their children to live their dreams. I thought it was odd because both parents came to ” Land of Opportunity” which is supposed to be America and to an extent still is.


The Hispanic mom wanted her oldest to go to college. She raised 7 children by working in a bank and giving the best life she could. All of the other children have gone to college but the oldest got his girlfriend pregnant at 18 ( which was the same age his mom had him) and he does not have a steady job. He has a production company with his friend to produce music and he Dj’s occasionally. Occasionally being the operative word.  His grip was that his mother doesn’t understand his dream and his mom is basically telling him everyone has dreams but you have a family you need to take care of.  The reason why this young man pissed me off is because he is acting truly ignorant to how dire his situation is.  You are so busy wanting to fulfill your dream that you are not building marketable skills.  There are so many people who are working till their actual dream gets going. That is the adult thing to do and then the fact that he has a child, DUDE…… REALLY!!!?????!?!?! WTF . He reminded of an ex of mine who had dreams of becoming a big time fashion photographer and never wanted to work a day in his life and pretended like he wasn’t a father and did not have responsibilities.  And to top it off, his girlfriend, him and his child are all living in his mother’s house and he doesn’t have a car so his younger brother has to drive him around.   All he can think about is DJing and music.  Sorry Bro but you have bigger realities than you want to face.


The Persian man lives with his parents who have a very comfortable life and want to make sure his life has guaranteed comfort as well . His heart however is in writing and it seems to be in the satirical format. He has titled his book ” I used to be Persian”. This was a huge chagrin to his parents who almost died a small death from title to reading to the eventual book cover.  The issue that bothered me was his mom invading his privacy and calling his best friends to tell him no to publish the book.  Insane right?? I never understand why people never take the problem to the source. Talk to your son not his friends. They can’t control him as it seems as much as she can’t. What I appreciated about him though as that he stood by his convictions and moved out his parents house. He was afraid of being disowned but at the same time , he wanted to live his dream.

In this new millennium, most of us are drowning in debt ( educational or consumer). We cant find the jobs we need to in order to survive. We all have to be working no matter where we live.  But no matter what we still have to go after our dreams no matter how long it takes.  We are so inundated with celebrities and their big houses and such and we only know some stories about the struggles.


Life is a struggle. Not every we get will be easy. We have to work for it. The best thing is take the realities you face as what they are. You know you have bills and you know you have to live but if you want something bad enough , you will take the good with the bad till your dreams have manifested the way you want them too.

Protect and Serve… Yourself

I have noticed as of late that sometimes being strong is not so great. When you are your weakest moments, no one is around to help you because they think you are strong enough to get through it.

That double edge sword is a bitch. Reaching out to people is already a vulnerable position but to be shunned and not acknowledged hurts deeper than any cut that could ever be inflicted.

Basically people are telling you they don’t care and you are nothing to them. Now while that may not be the mentality, it is how it feels to the person being neglected.

What you can do in these situations are:

1) Take 5 deep breaths

2) Primal scream

3) Cry till your eyes are dry

4) Write down your thoughts

5) Find that one you trust and let them know.

When you are down, people will show that they care so move your focus from one person. Your network of caring people is probably bigger than the ones we always focus on . Open your eyes to your entire world.

Have a great day loves!!!Image

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine’s Day

Well today is the day to celebrate love. Yes LOVE in all sense of the word. I know Valentine’s day is associated with getting busy, men making up for lack of gifts for about the past 9 months ( remember birthday and anniversary), singles lamenting over couples being all lovey dovey and the blah blah blah.

My version of Valentine’s day is to reaffirm the love you have for people who mean the most to you.  Maybe your mom and dad, best friends, co workers, and the one that you have given your heart to and the most important person….. YOURSELF!!!!

Novel Concept right?!?!?!?  We need to stop looking at Valentine’s day as something to be mad at if we are single. You see these couples with each other everyday. It only seems amplified on this day because of what we have been ingrained for this day to represent.

Remember this is a day to celebrate love.  Love yourself and send love to all who mean the most to you.

Racism Rears it Head.. again and Once again at an institute of higher learning

I was doing my daily reading across the web and came across an article about the Kappa Sigma Fraternity on Duke University’s campus was having a racially motivated party making fun of Asian and the Asian culture. It seems the brilliant brothers decided to send out and invitation Called Kappa Sigma Asia Prime literally filled with misspellings and a picture of Kim Jong Il from the Team America Movie.

Duke University/ Copyright Getty Images

Of course this happens in Black history month which every year comes through facing uproars from some white people complaining why they do not have a white history month and other derogatory comments.

I need to understand why in 2013 or in the new millennium why we are still dealing with this.  I need to know why people still think this is ok or cool to do.

Now, I cannot speak for all Caucasians just like I cannot speak for all African Americans but I have to wonder what does go through some white people’s minds. Every day, we learn more about our history. YES I SAID our history because it includes every human on this planet.  From what I learn from history, not only have other ethnic backgrounds did unspeakable things to other ethnicity but they have also done it to their own.

So why is there still a need to make fun of other ethnicities? Sometimes, I swear these things happen because they know it will cause  an uproar. They will get attention whether good or bad, they get attention. I know that is a terrible way to see it but you cannot tell me they did not think it through. People like to play stupid but we all know what the hell we are doing.

How did they expect Asian students to react? Oh those foolish white people and just brush it off? WHAT THE HELL?  Stop thinking people are going to continuously tolerate the bullshit that is spewed.

I would love to understand if this coming from  the fact that the Caucasian population is not as large as it used to be and all the bigots out there are getting the hole cards peeped and punched out.

I really want to know. Humans seems to think other humans are stupid.  As I have said in other posts, be upfront with your bigotry and ignorance. Let it wave high and loud. Do not hide behind organizations and then apologize. Be honest with the person that you are. Just do not be surprised if others do not want to deal with you or be in your company.

There will always be plenty of people who hate people for the color of their skin because its different. Those are limited and stifled in-duh-viduals.  

Do you want to be an In -DUH- vidual?  

I didn’t think so.


To lend a helping Hand

helping hands

Today it finally hit me like a ton of bricks. I really enjoy helping people and I mean genuinely. I am not the type to pry into your business but it seems people really do open up to me and then we work together to get them to move forward. It feels good internally so I figure why not just continue with this good feeling.

I decided to become a consultant in life and in business. I want to help those gain focus and help them with businesses and lives. This is a bit uncharted territory but it is also very exciting.

I gained my first client today and I look forward to helping her build her brand.  My new Client is the granola diva  and yes she is my fam but what better to start then with someone who believes in you. I will be helping with building her brand and putting her in contact with those I know can help her move forward.  Kinda like a big help network.

I already have a big smile on my face about this and I know this will also help me build my photography business as well.

Wish me luck